When your baby doesn't sleep


I feel like broken record… but Poppy is the WORST sleeper. I made some silly recommendations awhile back about getting your baby to sleep through the night, but clearly I am not one to talk. Since she was about four months old we have been going through a sleep regression, but I've read that any 'regression' lasting longer than a few weeks is actually a real PROBLEM (no kidding), and needs to be addressed differently. The problem is… how do you address it?

We've tried moving her bedtime earlier, and then later. We try letting her cry on her own (briefly), or rush in and try to keep her 'calm' before she fully awakes. I've tried bedtime routines, nap routines, night lights, and calming lotions. Sometimes I think she had a "good" night, and I desperately try to recreate every single thing we did that day. I was briefly convinced that she must be cold at night, and therefore needs to wear footed pyjamas every night. Sigh. It is seriously exhausting to think about it all.

And here we are, at 10 months old, and nighttimes are a nightmare. I lie in bed before drifting off to sleep, literally nervous to fall asleep because I fear that little voice calling out and waking me in half an hour. So I toss and turn, and obviously she doesn't wake up, and it takes me two hours to fall asleep. And then? She wakes up. It's so frustrating because it is so random. Very occasionally, Poppy will sleep 8-10 hours without a peep. I know it's possible for her to sleep… but I can never count on it. As a person who likes to be in control of things, it's pretty hard.

So, where do we go from here? I am thinking about returning to work soon(ish), and the thought of using my brain seems completely out of the question when I wake up at 2, 4, 5, and then 6am. We have not committed to the 'cry it out' method, mainly because Poppy becomes hysterical when left to cry in her crib. It seems too sad… and she just gets more and more worked up. I am usually optimistic and think that next week will be better, but by this point it's getting hard to convince myself.

I am thankful that she is a happy babe during the day, despite her nighttime struggles. I'll keep dressing her in cute clothes and pretty bonnets… hoping that if I keep smiling I'll make it through the day. Oh Poppy… you are quite the special little lady!


Unknown said...

My sister found this book to be invaluable: http://www.amazon.ca/gp/aw/d/0449004023
He doesn't promote one method over another but gives advice depending on what your parenting style is. It also explains sleeping patterns at different ages so it's a super helpful book.
Best of luck!

Erika said...

Thanks Sara!! I will definitely check that out. I am open to any suggestions!!

Heather said...

Have you considered hiring a sleep specialist? Not like a doctor but someone who comes to your home and observes and gives a plan for sleep training? I've heard it's worth the expense.

at the very least, your daughter is healthy and can't get enough of life, aye? ;)