Manners

10/01/2012

We went to a Fall Supper on Sunday night, which is a Manitoba tradition in rural communities. For $12, we got a big thanksgiving-style dinner complete with turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes and pumpkin pie. These 'suppers' are typically held in community halls or churches, and members of the community get together to make all of the food. I think it's meant to celebrate the farmer's harvests... but I'm not 100% sure.

Last year we picked two to attend, and this was the first one we've been to this year. It's fun, inexpensive, and nice to get out of the city and look at all the gorgeous fall colours reflected in the farmer's fields. Soren's usually a pretty good eater, but less so when we are out of the house. I think he's too excited to watch everything that is going on around him.

Tyler and I have talked about manners a few times so far, in regards to how we want our children to grow up. One of my big things is that I don't want to be a 'make 4 different meals for 4 people' kind of house. I want Soren to grow up with a wide variety of food choices, and hopefully he will come to like most of them (or at least not make a huge fuss over the things he doesn't like). It's one thing to quietly not eat the mushrooms in your salad, but quite another to throw a major tantrum because you can't eat anything else on the plate once you spot a mushroom! (And I must say, there are definitely adults out there that are just as bad as kids for this type of thing.)

Tyler likes Soren to say Please and Thank You. He's the one who has single-handedly taught him these words, and reminds me to ask Soren to use them when appropriate. I think I tend to forget, because I sometimes just feel like it's my job to pick him up, or hand him a glass of water. And of course it is my job, in a sense, but I love that Tyler's trying to teach him how to be polite, even to his mom when she peels a banana for him.

I know we will experience some difficult situations ahead. At dinner last night we gave Soren a piece of pumpkin pie - his first - well before anyone else was eating dessert. We wanted to enjoy dinner and not have to hear him fuss. But I wonder about the logic behind that... is it a slippery slope? At what age do 'serious' manners start to become routine?

8 comments:

Camille said...

I think we started getting more serious about manners at about age 2 and a half? There's no parenting manual so we all just have to make our best guess and hope it's the right decision!

Heather Paulding said...

Sometimes sanity is more of a priority above anything else. If you are thinking about your child's manners then you cannot do too bad;-)

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The Students Wife said...

I think it is great that you guys are teaching him so young, cause I think if you just keep with it, when he is older it will come more natually for him ;) Thats what i TRY to do.. not always that great at it... I try to remind my son to say it to other people more than to me


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Christi said...

I so often feel like we are going through the same things with our little ones! We're putting a lot of thought into table manners right now. When we're in social situations I tend to give Michael more leeway so my husband and I can enjoy, but when we're home we really try to have good boundaries with meals - we all eat together, pray first, Michael eats what we eat, practice saying please and thank you, etc. I think as he gets older we will put more and more emphasis on manners with other people. Love the picture! He's such a cutie :)

Nicholl Vincent said...

he is the cutest baby!!

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Street Fashion Paris said...

Awww...so cute!!!

Jelli said...

Manners is such a toughie to figure out. As my little girl gets bigger, I realize just how little I know about raising kids. I can't offer you any suggestions, as I'm learning myself, but your little boy is a real cutie & I love the idea of the fall dinners. P.S. I read ALL the comments right along with you. It's a learning journey, parenting.